Near the Old Man of Storr, Scotland I took this in 2004

Thursday, August 20, 2009

All about bi

"The term bisexual emerged in the 19th century, but people have always been attracted to both genders. In many cultures, bisexuality was seen as a natural expression of sexuality. Ancient Greece is often cited as an example of a culture that accepted and expected bisexuality.

Though bisexuality is often assumed to be a "stage" or a stepping stone on the way to being gay or lesbian, it is a sexual orientation in its own right." ( from

Being bi can be very lonely. I think, as with anything, being bi is or can be a continuum.

I have to say here, that I have never really liked the word "bisexual", to me it sounds like a disease. I used to use queer, but then found myself spending ages having to not only explain that but also the meaning of bi.

So, for now I've settled with the truncated form of just bi. It suits, for the time being, unless anybody has a better word?

At different times in my life, say, I have identified more with being het and at others, lesbian, and at other times still with being queer, and groping around unsure in the dark to get my bearings on whatever being bi means to me.

I have met hardly anyone who identifies as bi, so it feels even more isolating at times.

Some days I feel more lesbian and feel more attracted to women, and other times I see a hot man, and realize I can be me, lesbian and straight, all together as confusing as it can be at times.

Being bi isn't all that defines me, it's a part of who I am. And to that end, it annoys me so bloody much whenever I do a search here on blogger for issues and interests pertaining to being bi. All that comes up on peoples' profiles are topics about sex, and that's it. People can be so damn linear, one sided.

Meh, I'm bisexual, but I'm also a traveller, a writer, artist, cat adorer, you get the point, I hope.

Here's a wee list of some famous bi people:
  1. Marlene Dietrich
  2. Frida Kahlo
  3. Drew Barrymore
  4. Nelly Furtado( I know?)
  5. Margaret Chow
  6. D.H Lawrence( but who cares, I couldn't find many men)


  1. Speak on sister! I know what you mean, you tell people you are bi and all they can think about is your sex life or how you would fit in theirs to make it interesting. I feel like saying, there is more to me than my sexuality. I have more to offer than if I want to have a 3some with you. I'm not a plaything or a freak, I'm just me.

  2. Exactly!!and might I add bingo! :)