Near the Old Man of Storr, Scotland I took this in 2004

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Family isn't so nuclear anymore

A new topic: I have 545 signatures to date on my petition urging the Canadian government to include animal rights in the constitution!

Also, something to chew on: the term "family" is only ever extended to those with children, but never to those who choose other forms of family. I have a cat, and she's obviously my family, but rarely would non-cat lovers see that point.

Some people I know have chosen to not have children but instead have a dog: their baby. And until I mentioned /thought of it the other day to my friend, who is relatives to the guy in the duo, who also had not ever seen it,I realized that that couple is not regarded as a family, by their larger family , and society, by virtue of the fact that they don't have kids. They are 'only' seen as a couple, not a family, even though they share their lives and home together.

In other words, they are seen as less important, because they have chosen not to procreate, and their chosen family is not validated.

It's time we start recognizing all forms of families. From two people who share their lives sans anyone else, to one person and the animals s/he is lucky enough to share it with too.

These ways of viewing the world seeing family as meaning 2.5 kids and a husband and wife are discriminatory, stupid, limiting and unfair. And should be relegated to the past.

Family is who you choose to love and spend your life with formally or informally, so this includes best friends, the furry kinds and the not-as-furry people kinds, and partners and spouses, and close friends.

When it dawned on me, the other day, that the family with the dog was a) a family! and b) actually not seen as such I felt both angry and triumphant, for realizing that I've have been seeing the world through the old paradigm for way too long as well, hence my just waking up to see that, yes relationship, home= family, and then triumphant for realizing it and telling my friend who had to stop and think about it too. I don't know if it moved him as deeply as it did me, but for me it's about seeing animals as deeply sentient and important beings, and furthermore, it's about recognizing people's valid life choices.

By not recognizing that fam as such we are saying " the only valid life choices are marriage and children, thank you very much."

Well, fuck you ancient, oppressive paradigm.

Family is who you love with and live with!

Friday, March 5, 2010


Question: If someone told you that they hoped you'd
get hit by a bus how would you feel?

I know how I felt when it was said to me earlier today by none other than my
psychotic sister.

And right before that hateful scenario was wished upon me , the "c-word", among other words, was hurled at me, full throttle, I might add. It's the one that rhymes with blunt.
This person, who feels that I am her emotional and psychological punching bag, is not some kid. No, she's nearly 40 years old.

And once her personal storm is over she thinks everything's ok, and treats me like nothing happened, and often uses a voice that is so damn condescending, (I think this is the word I want.) I feel beyond rage and she calmly says shit like, "Why are you always so angry?" As a control tactic, I've finally figured that out.
What the fuck?!

Most people should never have been born, and she is on the top of the list, as far as I'm concerned, as a huge, psychotic mistake.

This is on the heels of International Women's Day. The irony, huh?

Why, you may be wondering, am I blogging about this? Because I can't keep this to myself anymore. I don't know which is worse, feeling terrified by her crazy temper, or isolated because of it.

It's debilitating to get treated like shit so often, and to have no one know or believe me. The people in my family who have seen her rage or listen to me 'complain' about it, always have an excuse for why she acted in such a manner.

I don't want to hear any more excuses! Not one.

Most people who know her think she's swell. That's cuz if she showed her friends her evilness she'd have no one. So, she figures she can take out her rage on me, primarily, because I am only a relative.

Today I have decided to no longer be quiet. That's why I've written this.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Little joys

So, after crow-watching for 3 weeks now, I am so happy to report that my lonely neighbourhood crow was sitting perched atop a large billboard, cawing next and right to her/him was another crow who seemed just as enthusiastic to be able to share the sunshine with someone else!

We all need friends. Loneliness is terrible, for everyone. So, seeing the crows was beautiful!!

I also saw a rainbow this morning, it must be an omen; because there was no rain and it wasn't overcast at all, just completely sunny.

Keep asking/telling people to sign my petition, even with the names of famous dead vegetarians, such as St. Francis of Assisi; the original animal lover,